Are you in the Red Zone with your child?

This is the Miracle Cycle.

It shows the cycle of emotions and how they work.

The Red Zone is any negative emotion such as; fear, worry, impatience, desperation, anger, victim, irritation, judgment, hopelessness, stuck, etc.

The Blue Zone is the work we do to get out of the Red Zone.  It's letting go, trusting in God, changing our hearts, acceptance, faith, etc...

The Gold Zone is where we want to be. It's where we experience a majority of our emotions from a state of love, peace, calm, clarity, joy, abundance, etc.

We know that we are in the Red Zone by how we feel.

What is our dominating emotion each day?  Is it anxiety? Fear?  The need to control?

And we know if our kids are in the Red Zone by their behavior.   Are they sad? Are they mad? Maybe they are disconnecting and in avoidance with you?  Are they needy and desperate?

The most important question is this:  Are you in the Red Zone with your child?

What is the dominating emotion you feel when you think of your relationship with your child?  Is it worry?  Fear?  Stress?   Anxiety?   

Being in the Red Zone with our child is a very unhealthy place to be, and can be the cause of so much of the disfunction in the relationship.

When we are in the Red Zone with our child, we can't show love, we can't show understanding, we can't show compassion, and we can't teach them in a way that they will accept what we are sharing.  It's like our brains are a mass of red scribble marks.

Our kids know we're in the Red Zone with them because the FEEL us more than they hear us.

They feel our tension, our worry, our fears, our anxieties.   And the worse part is, is that it's a contagious energy that they usually also take on themselves.

So if we are feeling worried about them, they sense that and don't feel like they are safe.

If we are feeling irritation with them, they feel that and they don't feel loved and accepted.

If we are feeling sadness or disappointment about their choices, they feel that disappointment and they feel shame and unworthiness.

And then of course, their behavior shows all of these emotions that they are taking on. 

In order to have an open, loving and wonderful relationship with you children it's imperative that we move out of the Red Zone.

In order for our child to have clean and clear mental health it's imperative that we move out of the Red Zone.

In order for our child's behavior to improve, its imperative that we move out of the Red Zone.

What is it you want for your child?  Do you need to move out of the Red Zone?

- Amy

Join my online membership, the Miracle Connection to learn exactly how to move out of the Red Zone, repair your relationship with your child, and help them with their mental health.   Details here.